Is it time for you to reboot?  Where are you with the goals you set for yourself at the beginning a year?  We’re currently at half time, so what’s up with you?   Half the year is already gone, so what have you done for yourself lately?

So take out your goal sheet & your measuring stick and let’s take a look.  If you’ve been making good progress so far this year, you should have completed at least two out of the five goals/tasks you listed on your goal sheet.  Reward yourself with that already predetermined treat for your hard successful work!  You deserve it & you should be proud of the work you’ve done so for!  Enjoy!

Now, in order for you to defend the ground you’ve … Continue reading

What’s your forbidden fruit?  Remember that story in the bible in the book of Genesis, when God gives Adam instructions on how to live in the Garden of Eden where He placed them to live.  God tells him that he can use/occupy any part of the Garden with only one exception – do not eat from the tree of Life!  But the garden was full of many trees and they had access to every other tree in the garden because God said that they were good for him to eat from.  Here it is in Genesis 2:16-17 (nkjv);  And the Lord God commanded the man, saying, “Of every tree of the garden you may freely eat; 17 but of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil you … Continue reading

When someone shows you who they are, why don’t you believe them?  Why do people have such an urge to try to be the savior of another?  Didn’t Jesus already do that? Are you that desperate to be able to say “I got somebody”?  Why do we waste precious time trying to turn someone into something you think is better?  You do know that you can’t ever get that time back right?  Wouldn’t it make more sense to spend your time working on yourself so that you can attract what you really want?  I think it would.

We really need to spend the necessary time thoroughly assessing why we do the things that we do.  We have to understand that the reason we don’t have some … Continue reading

Male vs. Man – do we really know the difference?  I know your first response is to say “of course” I know the difference between a male/boy and a mature man but look around, look around and then you will see there is a definite problem!  As you look around, take a look at your own dating life – when did you learn the difference?  How did you learn it & who taught the differences to you?   Ladies and gentlemen we really have to raise our standards!  It’s time we synchronize our definition about this with God’s definition!  Just like with everything, God’s way of doing things is the best for us.  No surprise there right?

As you look around at other people and maybe even … Continue reading

Dating purity, can it be done?  Of course it can be!  How do I know that?  I know because God says so.

Then why is it that single Christians struggle against and with the concept of celibacy?  Well, of course we know the answer is people simply like & want to have sex so they don’t want to be celibate. We also know that the desire or compulsion to have sex outside of marriage comes from our flesh via the lust demon (Yes, demons are real and they do have names). More importantly, we know how God feels about sex outside of marriage & He calls it a sin. His directions about it can be found in many places in the Bible but I’m going to … Continue reading

Do you know the signs that will help you determine if your life is a mess? I know we are all legends in our own minds, but in order to accomplish any goal you may have, you have to come to the place of maturity.  Put your big boy or girl draws (underwear) on so that you can take an honest look at yourself. So I’ll ask you the question again – Do you know the signs that your life is a real mess?

Now, if you live in a major city or if you’re online a lot or you use various social media sites or apps, you’ve probably heard on the phrase “hot ghetto mess”..  This term refers to some life situations such as:

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Can you handle the truth?  What truth you may be asking?  The truth about you?  The whole truth, and nothing but the truth about you?

A lot of what we know about ourselves that we don’t like, we choose to try to hide from others if we can.  If we can’t hide it, maybe something like a bad temper, or bad spending habits, we choose to justify it as a character defect, right?  We say things like; that’s just the way I am or I can’t help it & people have to accept me the way that I am.  Have you heard any of these excuses before?  Have you used any of them yourself?

The truth is some of us are in complete denial about the “not … Continue reading

What Do You Really Know About God? I know as Christians, we say we believe in God, but what do we mean when we say that?   What do we really know about God as a spiritual being?  What do you think God wants us to understand about Him?  If you were asked to describe God to someone who never heard about Him, what would you say & how would you describe Him?  Could you do it using plain English, not the church talk we’ve grown so accustomed to speaking?  We can see in Jeremiah 9:23-24 (amp); 23 Thus says the Lord: Let not the wise and skillful person glory and boast in his wisdom and skill; let not the mighty and powerful person glory and boast in his strength and power; let not the person who is rich [in … Continue reading

We all know Nelly’s song and have danced to too!  It’s getting hot out there and if you’re single (or married), it may be getting hot inside you, too! So be careful because fire is hot and you don’t want to be burned.  Don’t forget, sometimes the price of making a mistake is way too high!  Spring is here and summer’s right around the corner and the crazy has already begun.  Folks, just like the flowers and trees, are in full bloom.  As soon as it seemed to get hot I started seeing folks outside half-dressed, scoping out who’s available to play.

I’ve had more than my share of dealings with the demon of lust and it took me about two years to get dominion over … Continue reading