Signs Your Life Is A Mess!!!
Do you know the signs that will help you determine if your life is a mess? I know we are all legends in our own minds, but in order to accomplish any goal you may have, you have to come to the place of maturity. Put your big boy or girl draws (underwear) on so that you can take an honest look at yourself. So I’ll ask you the question again – Do you know the signs that your life is a real mess?
Now, if you live in a major city or if you’re online a lot or you use various social media sites or apps, you’ve probably heard on the phrase “hot ghetto mess”.. This term refers to some life situations such as:
- You have many babies (three or more) fathered by many different men – none of whom has ever been your husband. And you’re no longer in relationship with any of them.
- You’re over 40 years old & your still living with your parents having never moved out on your own. You’re probably sleeping in the basement pretending it’s an apartment!
- You’re in your 20’s and you have a great great grandmother who is only in her 40s!
- Your entire economic history is based on welfare and food stamps. And you have no desire for anything better.
Whatever your culture is and no matter where you live you probably have your own definition of what a “hot ghetto mess” is. Normally, these are things that go against the status quo or what is considered a good basic way to live. If you are not familiar with the term simply google it and then you’ll have a much better idea of what I’m talking about. We look at these things as extremes and many of us would not find them acceptable even though many other people do. Whether you do or not your life can still be a mess. So even if you are not on any “hot ghetto mess” list, your life can still be a mess.
You may not be a “hot ghetto mess” but your life may still be a mess in less dramatic and much more subtle ways. For example:
- Having a Negative Attitude – In addition to being a major turn off to those around you, this is a sign that you’re not happy within yourself. So it’s affecting how you talk to & treat people. This includes how you treat yourself. You have to take control of your negative thoughts (the demons in your mind) and stop giving in to them. Identify the demons talking to you (they have names just like you do) and use the assistance of the Holy Spirit to help you take them out! This will give you control over those negative thoughts because you have to remember that attitude is a contagious spirit. It is transferable, so you don’t want to pass it onto others. Thinking positively will boost your confidence & support a much more constructive thought life and foster a positive attitude.
- You feel overwhelmed. This is a great sign that your life is out of balance – There is too much disorder! Reach out to get the help that you need so that you can learn to prioritize, strategize, delegate, take some quality personal time by yourself & personal time to spend with God every day! Determine what is most important for you to accomplish, make a plan, ask for help, and make sure you have at least 30 minutes of uninterrupted, nonnegotiable, unapologetic time to just do you! Learn to say “no” when you know your plate is already full & you can’t take on any additional projects! Be willing to clear your plate of things on it that you know you really can’t do well. Use the Holy Spirit for direction.
- Your home or room is a mess! A mess in the places where you spend a considerable amount of time and your unwillingness to straighten it out is a sign that there’s distress inside of you. Doing what you have to do to restore cleanliness and order on the outside is a great first step to doing the same thing on the inside. Be willing to throw away the things you haven’t been using. Don’t give into the demon of fear as you sort & threw the things out that you’ve been hoarding.
- Fixable health issues – Are you suffering from stress-related health issues? Consistent stress affects your immune system, opening the door for heart disease, high blood pressure, asthma, obesity, diabetes, headaches, gastrointestinal problems and premature death. All of these things can be fixed as you relieve the stress factors in your life. Don’t let the demon of fear keep you from reaching out and asking for the help that you need as long as your request is sincere. James 4:3 (niv) – 3 when you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures. Reach out for the help that you need. There are many health professionals who are being paid to do just that! Stop helping Satan take you out!
- You aren’t your first priority – Are you a mess because you put other people and other things ahead of taking care of yourself? Are you sacrificing your life in order to help others – or so you think? Are those people and things returning the favor? Probably not! The only person you should be putting ahead of yourself is God. Then you’re #2 & everyone else comes next & that includes your spouse & children in that order. You are worth taking care of. Anything telling you anything different is simply lying to you! Believe that God put His best stuff in you. Just be willing to dig it out.
Now, if you find yourself, to any degree, in any of the places or areas above I’ve got great news for you!
Yes, your life may be a mess right now, but you have the power to change it at any time. And you can start that change right now!
God has been waiting and is so very willing to help you! All you have to do is ask Him. Yeah, yeah, yeah I hear what your saying – if God is so willing to help me where has he been? Let’s talk about it.
Let’s check out Revelations 3:30 (cev) – Listen! I am standing and knocking at your door. If you hear my voice and open the door, I will come in and we will eat together. God has been here all the time. And, like it or not, God is a gentleman. He has given you something called “free will”. Therefore, He can’t help you until you invite Him in and ask for His help. How would you feel if I broke into your house and when you found me in your house uninvited and you see that I broke in, I told you I was there to help you? You wouldn’t care what help I said was there offering – you would kick me out of your house wouldn’t you? I know I would kick you out if the roles were reversed! My anger in that situation would make me blind to any blessing you may have been bringing.
Well it’s the same with God! He will not break into your life, no matter how much He wants to and He does want to! God is always there with us in Hebrews 13:5-6 5-6 Don’t be obsessed with getting more material things. Be relaxed with what you have. Since God assured us, “I’ll never let you down, never walk off and leave you,” we can boldly quote, God is there, ready to help; I’m fearless no matter what. Who or what can get to me?
Now that you know that God is always with you & He wants to help you, you can boldly ask for His help. Then God will make his full power available to you because He created you and sent you to earth to fix a problem that only you and He can fix together. That’s how important you are to God and to this world!
So I’ll ask you again, do you know the signs to determine if your life is a mess? God sent me to tell you that no matter what mess your life may be in today, know that you working together with God can fix it! Your mess will be your ministry – your life’s mission! Holla!
Clarence D. Sellers Jr
Thank you for this because, I’m in this situation right now. Really needed to hear this today. Thank you Pastor Karen for letting God use you to help us in our(my) time of need.